You did this. You let this happen. You opened your heart with good intentions – I’m sure of it – but look where that got you. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t have opened your heart at all, but my dear girl, I wish you would have looked before you leaped. He was a walking red flag, and you wanted nothing more than to hold him up with pride. You’re attracted to the pain, aren’t you? You knew this wasn’t going to end good – there’s no way that you couldn’t have known. I bet he even told you he was “no good for you” and that “it would never work”, but you wanted to beat the odds. You wanted nothing more than to be a tale of true love – something that is hard to come by these days. But now you’re stuck.
Is It Love Or Is It Convenience?
When you spent alot of time with someone, you begin to realize that life gets comfy. Sure, maybe you fight, but you’ve fallen into a routine that works for both of you. You wake up together, you go to sleep together, and on Friday’s you order Chinese. You couldn’t just switch things up now, could you? This is working, so why would you screw that up? Your fear of the unknown may be holding you back, my friend. Do you really love each other, or are you just together because you don’t know what else to do?
Maybe they pay half of the bills, and you can’t afford to live in your home without their help. Maybe you’re afraid to be alone, so you put up with the sub-par relationship that you are living, that will never evolve into anything greater. My word to you is: stop.
Stop putting up with ‘convenience’ as an excuse to stay in a relationship that is destined to fail.
You’re Allowed To Be Happy
I’m not sure when it happened, but you lost your way. You lost your sense of self, and your confidence is shot. You do know you are worth pure gold, don’t you? I’m not saying that he is a terrible human being – I’m sure he is wonderful, in fact! But just because you’re both great, doesn’t make you a great couple!
Give yourself a chanced for happiness, will you? Just give it a chance, at the very least. I know your heart is going to crave his kind words before you fall asleep each night, but in a year you will thank yourself. Do you want to spend the next year wondering if something better is out there in the universe waiting for you, or do you want to spend it finding out what’s out there?
The next 365 days are yours, and only yours. Make your choices wisely, and spend them with the people you think will benefit you and your future. You could be happy… Or you could be trying to be.